By: Donna Selma Lind
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| DON'T GET YOUR UNDIES IN A BUNCH!
Can we talk? Can we talk about Anger Issues?
Do you ever have a problem with controlling your temper?
Have you ever been so irritated by someone that you felt like smacking them silly? Oh, don't get all "Holly Holy"on me now because you know you have, even if you don't want to admit it.
"For we have all sinned and fall short of the glory of God."Romans 3:23
For most of my life I had a problem with Anger. I didn't know how to express or vent my anger because I was conditioned as a child to keep my emotions in. This continued throughout my first marriage which was very unhealthy for me because I was in an abusive marriage.
I stuffed my anger for over forty years and when I finally was free to express my anger it was explosive and caustic because I wasn't trained on how to control it. Once I let that anger loose I walked around with my undies in a bunch until I wasn't the only one irritated and uncomfortable!
"Anger is a universal, basic,normal unavoidable reaction of displeasure. It usually involves a significant portion of misunderstanding and has it's roots in our own unmet expectations."
Paul Hegstrom
"Anger is a secondary emotion. It is a warning sign and an alarm to a primary emotion such as Fear, Hurt or Frustration."
Gary Oliver
WHY ARE YOU ANGRY? {Fear-Hurt or Frustration?}
A - ANGER
N - NOT CONTROLLED
G - GERMINATES
E - EMOTIONAL
R - REACTIONS OF RAGE
Get a grip on Anger before it gets a grip on you!
IDENTIFY YOUR ANGER PERSONALITY
When the heat is on in the kitchen are you a?
*CROCK POT- Stuff it all in savor and stew on it slow and steady.
*PRESSURE COOKER- Pressure builds up, then explodes!
*MICROWAVE- Heats up fast. Quick tempered. Always ready for a fight!
RECIPE FOR ANGER :
*What are your parents Anger personalities?
*Were you allowed to express your emotions as a child? How?
*What made you angry as a child? What makes you angry now?
*Who pushes your buttons? Why?
*How do you express your anger now?
*Have you ever hurt someone because of your anger?
Do you think now is a good time to apologize?
NO MATTER HOW UPSET OR ANGRY WE ARE GOD GIVES US ANSWERS AND HELP ON HOW TO CONTROL AND OVERCOME ANGER.
"Be quick to listen,slow to speak and slow to become angry, for mans anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires." James 1:19-20
"Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil." Ephesians 4:26
"Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense." Proverbs 19:11
LET'S GET COOKING WITH NEW INGREDIENTS
1) TIME OUT- Take a break. Walk away. Cool Off.
2) TALK TO GOD- Pray. Quiet down. Breathe.Bless and Forgive.
3) TEMPER TRIGGERS- ID the cause: Hurt, Frustration, Fear?
4) TAME IT- Self control. Journal.Walk. Exercise. Yard work. House work. Call a friend.
5) TURN IT AROUND- What's my part? Share responsibility.
6) TRY AGAIN- Come back: Listen. Don't Blame. Open heart.Soft voice. Focus on a solution, not the problem.
RECIPE SWAP :
REPLACE ANGER WITH THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT!
"Love, joy, peace,patience, kindness,goodness,faithfulness, gentleness and SELF CONTROL."Galatians 5:22
"Anger is one letter short of danger." Eleanor Roosevelt
Get a grip on your anger issues, before they get a grip on you and you hurt the ones you love!
SHARE THIS BLOG WITH SOMEONE YOU LOVE OR SOMEONE YOU DON'T LOVE OR SOMEONE WHO HAS MADE YOU ANGRY! ;-)
KEEP CALM AND DON'T GET YOUR UNDIES IN A BUNCH!
HALLELUJAH!
PRAISE THE LORD AND SHARE THE GOOD NEWS!
Donna Selma Lind
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